Author: Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Professional Coach
Source: articleage.com
Mary was always exhausted. Despite working out, eating well,
taking supplements, and even having therapy, there was something
dragging her down she couldn't, garages, figure out.
When I first, garages, talked to her, she described a good, garages, job, a
supportive spouse, a good set of friends, and some interesting
hobbies. She had, garages, even just returned from a vacation, but the
fact it hadn't refreshed, garages, her caused her to call for coaching.
She wanted to brainstorm on what was going on and what she could
do differently.
"What did you think about when you were on vacation?", garages, I asked
her. It seemed a good place to start.
"What I should've, garages, done, garages, before I left home," she replied, and
went on to describe a long list of things that had piled up at
home - a garage that needed cleaning, a lawn that had been
neglected, files at work and at home that hadn't been taken care
of, and a whole backlog of things that needed attending to.
"I thought a vacation was what I needed," she said, "you know to
get some rest. But it didn't work."
Mary's on to something there. Sometimes you'll gain more energy
by expending, garages, it to take care of what you need to!
Yes, our lifestyles are busy today,, garages, but, assuming you're taking
care of your physical health, sleeping 8 hours, eating, garages, right,
taking supplements and working out, there's a source of stress
you may have been overlooking.
There's nothing, garages, so fatiguing as something you're supposed to
have done and haven't done. In other words, those chores and
tasks on the to-do list. This can be one large thing, or a
number of small things. In fact the size of the task doesn't
matter; they, garages, all create, garages, about the same amount of fatigue in your
brain.
When you have, garages, something nagging at you like this, it's a
continual drain of energy. Why? Because it tugs at our emotions.
You're reminded you need to do the task and immediately feel
guilty, lazy, angry at yourself, or any number of other
negatives thoughts about yourself. These, garages, are energy-draining in
the short-term and detrimental in the long-term.
What do you do? You start making excuses - to yourself, garages, and to
others, garages, . "I didn't have time," or "I had to do XX first." If
someone else is dependent, garages, on the task, or wants you to do it,
you can turn and focus,, garages, garages, your anger and frustration on them, and
this adds more negativity, garages, to the mix. At the same time other
people involved can become, garages, frustrated and angry with you. This
sets up a force field of nagging, complaining, demanding, and
other unpleasant emotions.
The longer you wait to complete the task, the less you'll think
about yourself and your competence.
Rarely do these things go away. Instead they sit around and
fester in our minds, or grow worse in reality. If you were
supposed to weed the garden,, garages, doing it a month ago instead of
today would have taken a whole lot less time, garages, . You would still
have, garages, been weeding, which you don't like to do, but there
would've, garages, been a lot less weeds to get rid of.
Now when you get out there to weed, and the task is
overwhelming, you'll question your ability as a gardener, and
maybe even your abilities in general. What would've been an easy
task has become a large one, and will demand more of you.
In order to motivate yourself, think, garages, back right now on some task
you had in the past that you took care of immediately. There are
probably numerous examples, but you may not be able to think
about them because you moved through them so quickly they didn't
take up any brain-energy at all.
That's the take, garages, home point. Instead of staring at the files
piling up on your desk (which will take up place in your brain
and emotions as well) tackle it immediately. Don't let things
pile up, because they pile up in your head as well, and that's
energy, garages, you need for other things.
Here, garages, are some ways to get started: ทTake an inventory of all the
things you need to tackle. ทMake a list where you can check
things off when they're completed and see your progress,, garages, garages,, garages, .
ทCelebrate each item you take off your list with some treat for
yourself. ทBegin! Choose one thing and do it. ทWork with a coach
for support. ทDeclutter and simplify. As you go through the
piled-up list, think of what things you could completely
eliminate that would free up time and energy. ทBe ruthless in
getting rid of tolerations.
It may take you a while, garages, to get through your list, but you will
eventually. If you eliminate some things, you should be able to
stay caught up and feel a whole lot better about things.
